Do you believe in addiction? More to the point, do you believe that you are an addict? The answer to this question is super-important. Not for me; for you and for your chances of success at getting quit and staying that way.
Learn to Let Go
Not so long ago, gangrene was a fairly common condition in the western world. Gangrene, also known as necrosis, is the localized death of living tissue, usually caused by either serious injury, infection, or lack of oxygen to an area of the body for any number of reasons. Left untreated, gangrene will usually spread to surrounding tissue, and if left untreated long enough, it is often fatal.
Rituals
The night before I quit for the last time, I went outside at a few minutes before midnight and lit my last cigarette. As I smoked it, every time I took a puff, I repeated out loud, “This is the last cigarette I will ever smoke.” In between drags, I reminded myself that smoking was something I would not miss.
I was so ready to quit by then that I didn’t even finish that cigarette…
The Power of Choice
I used to be a smoker.
On November 19th, 2001, I started making some new choices for myself: I started choosing life. I started choosing health. I started choosing strength, and self-control, and freedom. I started choosing not to smoke, just for today.
I remember hearing “older” quitters saying that if you stuck it out long enough, there would come a day when you’d forget that you had quit smoking. That, in fact, there would come a day when you’d forget that you’d ever been a smoker at all.
I wasn’t sure I believed them.
Choose Life
Have you tried to quit so many times, in so many ways, that you just don’t know what to do any more? Have you tried all the different programs, pills, patches, potions, and plans? Do you feel like there’s no hope for you? Like the addiction is too strong for you to control?
Does it ever seem like you’re not even conscious of buying cigarettes? Do you quit and stay quit for a week, or a month, and then something suddenly clicks and you’re smoking again before you realize what you’re doing?
Do you wonder if you’ll ever get free? If you’ll ever be able to find a way to quit that will work for you?
What Worked for Me
What worked for me was I stopped kidding myself.
I used to tell myself that the addiction was too strong.
I used to pretend that I was helpless to stop it.
I used to kid myself that I somehow "slipped" and went back to smoking, or that I "accidentally" smoked one, or that I somehow "unconsciously" bought a pack.
My Wake-Up Call
Then, one day in the Fall of 2001, my doctor was explaining my latest set of chest x-rays:
Pointing at dark areas that covered the lower third of both of my lungs, he asked,
"Do you see these black areas? That’s all dead tissue, and lung tissue doesn’t grow grow back. If you keep smoking, these black areas will continue to grow until you’ll need to be on oxygen 24/7 just to survive. Eventually, even being on pure oxygen 24/7 won’t be enough, because there won’t be enough live lung tissue left to process the oxygen, and you’ll suffocate and die."
He assured me it was not a pretty way to die.
I Heard the Call
I made a firm decision right then and there that I was going to quit smoking, and that I was not going to go back this time. I went through the American Lung Association’s Freedom From Smoking online program and quit a week later, on November 19, 2001.
I haven’t had a puff since.
You can quit, too, and stay quit long-term, just like i have. But you have to stop kidding yourself.
Yes, you’re addicted to nicotine. But the addiction only has as much power over you as you give it. Stop making excuses and start making better choices.
Your Choices
When you get a crave, you only have two choices:
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Feed the addiction, knowing that, by doing so, you’re only buying a few moments relief from the crave, strengthening the addiction’s hold over you, and insuring that the craves will get stronger and more frequent.
This way lies death.
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Starve the addiction, knowing that, by doing so, you’ll only have to face a few moments of discomfort, but that you’ll be weakening the addiction’s hold over you and insuring that the craves will get weaker and less frequent.
This way lies life.
I’d suggest that you choose #2.